The other day, one of the guys I hometeach asked me a very simple question, “Ryan, are there any girls in the ward you think I would be compatible with that maybe I’ve overlooked?” Now at first I didn’t know how to answer the question and wanted to respond asking, “Well what girls haven’t you taken out yet.” Let’s face it, we don’t know if we are compatible with someone unless we’ve interacted with them in a one-on-one setting, by means of a date.
Instead, I asked him what qualities he typically looks for in a girl. He named off a few and I suggested some others that may fit him. I then asked him if he’d taken Brittany out yet. He went on to say, “No, not yet, but she seems so skiddish.” I asked him why he thought that and he responded with a couple examples. I hadn’t paid that much attention before, but it totally made sense.
Girls: Guys talk, this shouldn’t be a surprise. Granted, we don’t talk in depth or even in the same way that you do, but we do talk about you with other guys.
This means that if you develop positive relationships with guys, you are giving yourself a chance for more guys to ask you out. Turn guys down consistently or shy away from dates, even if you don’t think you may be a good match, and chances are they’ve shared this with their home teachers and other guys in the ward.
We don’t play by the same rules. So what if our roommate took you out last month. So what if you dated one of our buddies in the ward and it didn’t work out. Leave with a positive experience and you will receive help from them in your future dating experiences. Even if our roommate took you out last month, that doesn’t mean we won’t want to take you out after our roommate gives you a positive referral.
Needless to say, I began recommending to the guy I hometeach other girls that he could perhaps be a match for.