Just Do It!

Nobody is going to do it for you, Just Do It!

How often do you find yourself getting in your own way when it comes to dating? Guys; Do you complain that there are no girls you want to ask out? Girls; Do you complain that no guys ask you out? It’s time for everyone to get out of their own way and Just Do It!

Food For Thought:

  • Think of the type of person you are attracted to. Are you that type of person?
  • Do you create opportunities to date those you are attracted to?
  • What are you doing right now that is preventing you from finding/pursuing an eternal companion?
Now that we have a little food for thought, let me offer some suggestions.
Guys:
  • If you are attracted to girls that are fit, thin, and done up, is it reasonable for them to be attracted to anything less. Hit the gym. Don’t know how? Grab a friend, hire a personal trainer, just do it! Get a haircut, ask a friend that’s a girl some styling tips and let her take you shopping.
  • If you are attracted to girls that are active in the gospel and the ward, is it reasonable for them to be attracted to less? Get involved in the ward, read your scriptures and pray every day if you aren’t already, go to ward activities.
  • If you are attracted to girls that are very social…. eh you get my point. Be more social.
Girls, you’re not excused from this either:
  • If you are attracted to guys that are athletic and outdoorsy, maybe it’s time to go for a run. Find a girlfriend and make it happen.
  • If you are attracted to guys with silk ties, cuff links, and perfectly manicured hair, maybe it’s time for a makeover. Get a friend to help you pick out some new outfits, do your makeup different, or change up your hairstyle.
  • If you are attracted to guys that are big flirts, it’s probably a good idea to be a flirt yourself. Practice, practice, practice.
The point is that nobody is going to do this for you. You can’t sit idle and expect some girl/guy to show up on your doorstep and ask you to marry them?
If you don’t ask for a girls number, if you don’t ask them on dates, if you don’t move in for the kiss, you will not get married. It’s that simple. If you don’t put yourself out there and take a risk, you will remain single.
If you aren’t experiencing moments outside your comfort zone, if you aren’t feeling a slight bit of rejection every now and then, if you aren’t having awkward kissing/dating moments, you are DOING IT WRONG!
The point is, you are only going to marry one of them (at least, at a time). What that means is that you may strike out 99 times, but it helps you know what to look for and improve so that the 100th time you can knock it out of the park. Remember, practice makes perfect.
Did this post make you a little bit uncomfortable? Is there anything you need to do to give yourself a better chance of attracting a mate? Do you think it’s shallow that you might need to step your game up?
If you want our honest opinion, send us a message (email/text/whatever) with what’s going on and we’d be glad to help you out. We promise to keep it confidential.
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2 Responses to Just Do It!

  1. Elizabeth says:

    You have awkward kissing moments, Ryan? Details!

  2. marci says:

    love this post. great thoughts.

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